They were on the dock of Captiva Island. Facing an emerald sea, Dewy, Charlotte, and Enêri, through the magical Skype, were asking me about the hotels in Málaga from more than half a century ago. I promised them that one day I would return to that marvelous world, to that distant kingdom by the sea, La Caleta of Málaga, where the Hotel Casa del Monte once stood. Today, I fulfill that promise. Several years have passed, and this has been good. Back then, I didn’t know, as I do now, the descendants of a lady whose memory is more necessary than ever: Doña María Eugenia Gross Loring. "The last lady of industrial Málaga," as the master Alfonso Vázquez called her in an unforgettable article in La Opinión de Málaga (27.1.2013), which I recommend you read (found below).
Thanks to another master, the illustrious Dr. García Verdugo, I met the daughter-in-law of Doña María Eugenia, the brilliant translator and researcher Olga Mendoza. I also discovered that Doña Olga's husband, Jorge Benthem, the son of that lady who loved Málaga so much, was George, my friend from the early days in Torremolinos, in the distant years of the ‘Big Bang’ of the Spanish Costa del Sol. Miraculous years that made the prior existence of magnificent places like the Málaga hotel, La Casa del Monte, or the Santa Clara of George Langworthy, which we also remember as the Castle of the Englishman of Torremolinos, possible.
It's a pleasure, a very Proustian pleasure, to return to those memories. The only paradise that no one can destroy. And these corners of memory have acquired special vividness thanks to these friends I mentioned with immense gratitude. They told me that one day, the then-consul of France in Málaga, Monsieur Simon Arbelot, awarded, on behalf of the French Academy of Gastronomy, the prestigious 'Coq d'Or' to that wonderful hotel. La Casa del Monte, a hotel born with a strong vocation to be a beautiful and always elegant Mediterranean mansion. The hotel opened its doors in the summer of 1952. Its location was perfect, facing the sea, in that idyllic place of magnificent Málaga, which is the Monte de Sancha. The 22 rooms of the hotel (initially there were 10, due to the huge success of the house, an immediate expansion was advised) were simply perfect. Elegant and very comfortable. All had private bathrooms and telephones, not common in those days. It was an eminently attractive, civilized, and kind hotel. It could have been on the French Riviera or next to a Swiss lake or in northern Italy. It offered its guests a library and a beautiful garden for the sunny days of the mild Málaga winter. Not forgetting an esteemed kitchen. The one the French consul so deservedly awarded on behalf of the august Parisian academy.
Like so many important things in this world, it was a lady who made this wonderful place possible, where some of the most important people on this planet felt more comfortable and happier than in their own homes. The vision and admirable entrepreneurial ability of Doña María Eugenia Gross Loring, always with the support of her husband, Don Ignacio Benthem, worked miracles in that isolated and very poor Spain in so many ways. She furnished and equipped her small great hotel with authentic treasures. Among them were furniture acquired from the best antique dealers in London, English porcelain dishes, and silver cutlery. The sheets and bedspreads, 'beautifully embroidered,' came from France and Belgium. As did the table linens. Besides the splendid work of the nuns from Málaga convents, true masters in the art of embroidery.
Like many of the greatest hoteliers in history (including Cesar Ritz), Doña María Eugenia was self-taught. Her passion for culinary arts and the good advice of the chef at the house of the Marquises of Casa Loring, Don Guillermo Moyano, and the reading of the indispensable cookery manual by Mrs. Beeton, allowed her to train very good professionals in the art of hospitality, both in service and in the kitchen. She supervised market purchases with all the wisdom of a great hotelier, as well as the exceptional quality of the fish, thanks to the help and good work of the fishermen from nearby beaches. As also she achieved - professional excellence - with the housekeeping staff. Not a few of them later became highly valued governesses of large hotels on the coast. By the way, all hotel personnel were housed in very correct rooms that the owner very generously made available to them.
Of course, it wouldn’t be fair not to mention Don Ignacio Benthem, Doña María Eugenia’s husband. Very cultured, besides being a distinguished and always kind man of the world, with a great personality. He was a very important figure at La Casa del Monte and in Málaga of those years. His contribution to the hotel's success and great fame was extraordinary.
As Don Simon Arbelot had already noted, La Casa del Monte offered excellent, solid gastronomy, confirmed by the success of its famous three-course lunches and dinners with varied desserts. Not forgetting its wonderful 'afternoon teas,' among the best in Europe, so admired by British residents and visitors of Málaga. And which the IV Marquis of Casa Loring and his wife never missed.
The charm of that unique hotel began to attract very important figures to Málaga. Among them, the Marquis of Ivanrey, Don Ricardo Soriano, creator of modern Marbella. And his cousin, Princess Piedita Iturbe de Hohenlohe, mother of Prince Alfonso of Hohenlohe and related to Doña María Eugenia Gross Loring. The hotel also hosted the very illustrious guest, the Count of Villapadierna. Don José Villapadierna was a lifelong friend of Don Ignacio Benthem. The count was a significant international figure due to his friendship with Prince Aga Khan, also a regular guest at La Casa del Monte. After her divorce from Prince Aga Khan, the very famous actress Rita Hayworth stayed to rest at that Málaga hotel from which she had heard wonders. She would always thank Count Villapadierna, as would actress Ava Gardner. Or Infanta Cristina, daughter of Don Alfonso XIII, a regular visitor to the hotel, with family ties to its owner.
The British were staunch admirers of La Casa del Monte. Many of those people chose to settle in Málaga. And even end their days in that friendly city where they felt in a privileged place in every sense. Many distinguished writers and artists, especially English ones, were frequent guests of La Casa del Monte. As was the great Sir Francis Hackett, author of the splendid biographies of Henry VIII and Francis I, with his wife, also a writer, Signe Toksvig. Or the unforgettable British diplomat Cristopher Lance, who saved so many Spanish lives during the terrible years of our Civil War.
Many years have passed since then. La Casa del Monte remains in our memory, as it was: a miracle of intelligence, sensitivity, creative ability, and good taste, supervised by exceptional individuals. It was a good seed, very important for Málaga, the one that was planted. In these complicated, sometimes dark times, we are comforted to recall those who made it possible. And very especially Doña María Eugenia Gross Loring and her family. This admirable lady passed away on January 14, 2013. She was 99 years old. It was said that the founders of La Concepción and the dynasty that made it possible left the tourist Málaga with two treasures: that astonishing place and the example of her great-granddaughter, Doña María Eugenia Gross Loring. May she rest in peace.
There are lives so rich that they transcend their own and project onto those around them, becoming a model to follow. Such was the case of María Eugenia Gross Loring, or Chica, as she was known to her friends and family. Not only did she live a long life, but she also instilled in her family a way of being and doing things while preserving the memory of past generations. In her case, these generations made it possible, through their efforts, for Málaga to become the prosperous city it was in the 19th century and continues to be today.
On January 14, she passed away at the age of 99, taking with her the strongest link that still connected the modern city with the hopeful Málaga of the Industrial Revolution, which opened factories, built parks and avenues, and provided work for thousands of people. For Chica Gross Loring embodied the convergence of the principal families of 19th-century Málaga. In her home, she kept a portrait of the American Jorge Loring James, her great-great-grandfather, the first Loring to set foot in Málaga. Thus, she was the great-granddaughter of Jorge Loring Oyarzábal and of Manuel Agustín Heredia’s daughter, Amalia Heredia Livermore.
On her father's side, she inherited the German legacy of the Gross family, as her grandparents were Federico Gross Gayen and María Orueta, the couple who hosted newlyweds King Alfonso XIII of Spain and Queen Victoria Eugenia at their Santa Tecla estate in 1906. Her father, Ricardo Gross Orueta, became the third Marquis of Casa-Loring by marrying her mother, Julia Loring Heredia, who died two years after María Eugenia was born. This noble title—granted by Isabel II to her great-grandparents for funding medication for many impoverished citizens of Málaga during a cholera epidemic—would later pass to her brother, Ricardo Gross Loring.
Her father is remembered for his significant role in Málaga’s public life. He presided over the Royal Academy of Fine Arts of San Telmo and the Port Works Board (the dock at Paseo de la Farola originally bore his name) and facilitated the merger of the Brotherhood of Cristo de la Buena Muerte with the old brotherhood of the Virgen de la Soledad, forming the Congregation of Mena, of which he was the first elder brother. Additionally, he saved the Virgen de los Servitas from certain destruction.
Given this family background, it is not surprising that María Eugenia or Chica Gross Loring was a curious and cosmopolitan woman who spoke four languages and continued practicing German well into her nineties whenever she had the opportunity.
Born in Gamarra, then an area of grand vacation homes, she remained an avid reader to the end. She had a particular fondness for the book "The Time In Between" by María Dueñas, which she delighted in giving to those around her, reminiscent of the time during the Civil War when she lived in Tangier while her husband, Ignacio Benthem Guille, fought in the conflict. In fact, while pregnant, she flew from Tetouan to Seville in a plane full of Regulares troops.
A mother of six, she did not want to be a conventional housewife, and in 1953, she opened Casa del Monte at the foot of Monte Sancha, one of the first hotels in the emerging capital of the Costa del Sol, which remained in operation for 20 years. During that time, she recalled a dinner at her home—located above the hotel—with a very special guest: Rita Hayworth.
In the spring of 2010, during the writing of a book about 20 of the most memorable families from Málaga, the author of these lines had the opportunity to meet Chica Gross Loring, accompanied by her son, Jorge Benthem, and her daughter-in-law, Olga Mendoza. In her Monte Sancha home, with unforgettable views of La Caleta, he discovered a person who, despite her advanced age, was an enviable example of vitality, encyclopedic memory, and good humor, welcoming visitors with warmth and spontaneity.
At 96 years old at the time, she proudly showed a cupboard filled with various types of homemade jams that, it must be said, were hard to surpass. Among her many memories were beautiful photographs of her mother, whom she could not know because she lost her at a very young age, writings from her long life, and a photo album from the 1860s of the now-extinct Scholtz family—famous for their wineries, where El Corte Inglés is now located—as she was also related to them.
At the end of the chat, after giving the journalist a handmade gift, she said these words: "A friend has to give something: sympathy, affection, help, support... something." May this woman full of life, charm, and generosity rest in peace.